Every little girl fantasizes about what their wedding will be; they dream about having the huge cinderella ball gown, and the prince charming that will come and sweep you off your feet.
We have this idea of "perfect love" stuffed down our throats that it is all we search for, and if we don't find it, we get so hurt and broken by it; we act like it's the end of the world and say "I just want to be single the rest of my life".
True and perfect (as perfect as earthly possible) love takes time! Think of it this way; you are a pearl. A pearl takes years to become perfect and beautiful. You're the same way! It takes years to get you ready; a lot of time, learning experiences, pressure, heart aches. It all gets you ready for that perfect person to come into your life. You can't rush that process, otherwise you're exposing the pearl when it's not fully ready, and therefore not perfect.
You can't rush finding your prince, you will only hurt yourself. God is still molding you into the person you will become. He sees who you are, and has the PERFECT guy set out for you! And if it's any consolation, your guy is still getting ready himself for you too! You both are in your oyster getting prepared for each other; for perfect love.
God sees you, He sees your wants, your hopes, your desires, your passions. He knows you better than anyone else, and He has a guy that matches all your expectations, all your qualities, all you could ever hope for.
As the bible says in Song of Songs 2:7 "Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires". I know that can be so tough to hold back on, because we always want so dearly to love and to be loved, but it's not always the best time. It's always in God's timing. Of course we always want things when we want them, and we always think we are ready, when God knows... we're not. We can't rush something as precious and delicate as love; it's like a rose, it is such a beautiful and delicate flower, and if you pick it before its fully formed.. it will never be perfect, and will die before it ever could reach perfection. That's how we get hurt; we pick love before its ready, or what we get into our heads as love, when really, it's just strong feelings for someone.
When true love comes, you will know. And every body always asks, "how do you know though?" I can tell you from how I feel now, you will know. True love is so perfect, it brightens and makes your heart smile.
I have learned so much from past relationships, mainly my most recent one. There were so many signs of imperfection. There were things he would do, and I would get bothered by it, and try to look past it and say "it doesn't matter" because I thought I loved him. Perfect love contains no flaws. "All beautiful you are, my darling; there is no flaw in you." Song of Songs 4:7.
You should never have to change yourself for the other person. You should know who you are, be content and happy with who you are, and know what you deserve.
It has taken me a long time to realize that, and if I knew what I know now a few years ago, I would of waited for that perfect guy. But through these experiences and heart aches, you grow stronger, and it forms you into that person that you will be for your prince charming.
I encourage you to read the book Song of Songs in the bible; it is the most beautiful love story I have ever heard, and brings me to tears every time.
I want to tell you guys, don't give your heart out to just anybody. It starts to lose meaning when you keep handing out pieces to every guy you date. Trust me, I know....
Love is as powerful as death; it hits you like a pile of bricks and knocks you off your feet.
Guard your heart, don't let just anybody in. Don't let the enemy sneak in to destroy. "The thief comes to only steal, kill and destroy" John 10:10.
I hope you will all guard your heart, and wait for the perfect guy for YOU. The greatest love story you will ever hear, is the one that God has planned out for you.
Know who you are, and don't settle for any less. You all deserve to be treated like queens. Remember, just like it took time for you to be formed in your mothers womb, it takes time for you to be formed in love. Don't rush!
Hugs and kisses, Kat<3
My story, my life; I share with you so that you may gain strength in God.
The understanding you have of the Mad Mad World of love, is truly something that people can't even begin to grasp, and here you are not only understanding, but you've had a clear visualization of what has been and what is to be. I also believe your passion is the equivelant of a candle that will never melt!
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Thank you!<3
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